by Richard Flint Seminars
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The Old You Recently, I received a phone call from a young lady who was desperate for help. She has been married for several years and her marriage is going through tremendous challenge. Her conversation fit into the writing of my book Breaking Free. She said, “It is so hard to have a conversation with my husband. It seems like I trigger a switch inside him and it brings out this person I don’t know.” I understand what she was saying. Inside each person lives two distinct personas striving to have a control of your life. The “Old You” is the persona that keeps you looking backward. The “Old You” is the part of you that doesn’t want things in your life to be any different than they have been. This persona controls you through the negative emotional family. Each time you want to break out of the Circle of Sameness and take your life to the next adventure, the “Old You” will raise it’s ugly head, slap you with a negative emotion designed to take the excitement away and work to paralyze you with the strongest of the negative emotional family—fear. This is why most people repeat their pains; this is why most people hold onto their hurts; this is why most people keep repeating their frustrations. Your life is simply a series of tapes your mind plays. These tapes are triggered by the emotions you bring to any event. As long as the “Old You” is in control of your life, it will constantly send you backward and pull out all negatives from your yesterday. Think about it! How many times have you told yourself I am going to do this, only to find a reason to not do it? How many times has your excitement been stolen by reflecting on a past event? This is the “Old You” at work. The “Old You” doesn’t want your life to get better; the “Old You” doesn’t want you to experience growth. Each time you take a step forward the “Old You” has to give up some control. Most people are not controlled by what is happening in their life; they are controlled by what has happened in their yesterday. As long as yesterday is their living room for today, they are a prisoner in their self-constructed cell. Their life is not about getting better; it is about playing the old negative tapes of yesterday. As long as these tapes are the filtering system for the events of their life, they will repeat the negatives and miss the positives in their life. The result is a life that lacks self confidence, is unwilling to take any risk, can only see what is wrong, is constantly in crisis, can only talk about how unfair life is and always has someone or something to blame for their circumstance. The other persona is the “New You.” This is the light in the midst of the darkness the “Old You” stretches over your life. This is the part of you that is always looking for the next adventure. The “New You” is about solution, not blame. The “New You” wants to focus on the possibilities of today, rather than the pains of yesterday. The challenge the “New You” faces is having the strength to stand stronger than the “Old You” that has ruled your life for years. The “New You” is your mind at its best. It is your mind seeing the possibilities, sketching ideas in your imagination and coloring your life with positive emotional thoughts. Can you see why the “Old You” doesn’t want the “New You” to have control? This “New You” is the archenemy of the “Old You.” It will do anything it can to make sure the “New You” doesn’t gain strength. Its arsenal of negative emotional situations is huge. It has had years to build its negative presence in your life. Don’t underestimate it’s strength: it has been holding you back and knows how to beat you back when you have those moments where you want to reach forward. Every time you procrastinate, the “Old You” has won. Every time you allow the negative to stop you, the “Old You” has won. Every time you are controlled by doubt and worry, the “Old You” has won. Every time the “Old You” wins a battle in your life, you become weaker and move further away from living your life to it’s fullest. Hey, your greatest challenge is not in knowing what to do; it is in choosing who is going to decide the direction—the “Old You” or the “New You”. One of these will always design the journey you take.
If you would be interested in spending a weekend with me to gain a deeper sense of business or personal clarity, let me know. Email me at Richard@RichardFlint.com Recently I was with a company’s leadership that once again pointed out what confusion at the top can do to those who have to deliver the message from the top to the external customer. The lack of clarity is such a punishing thing to both the internal and external customer. The confusion the lack of clarity creates results in the lack of quality customer care. The challenge in this company was a divided top leadership. There were three who called the shots and they would agree in meetings, but then disagree in the message they delivered to people. The confusion paralyzed the people. The people were fearful to do anything because one of the three in charge would question why they were doing what they were doing the way they were doing it. The easiest thing was to do nothing and the result of doing nothing is nothing is getting done. The result of nothing getting done is the lack of business, which affects the bottom line. As I talked to these three creators of confusion, it was apparent they each had a different plan for what they thought the company should be doing; being strong personalities they would nod in agreement, but you knew it was simply a nod and not a common agenda. I talked to them about the fact, all human lives collide at the point of agendas. I talked to them about the urgent need for them to come together around a common crusade and that their presence must send a unified message to the people. After several hours of listening to each one’s plan for the company, we finally agreed to one journey they could all buy into. The challenge is this is not an isolated situation; it is one of the top two or three challenges most companies go through. The lack of a common agenda creates a wealth of confusion that filters throughout the entire company. Why is a common agenda so important?
(I would love to hear your thoughts about this information. Email me at Richard@RichardFlint.com) Over and over, I am asked by people who are working to build their business, “Whom should I recruit?” Recruiting is such a critical aspect of building a sound business that can create the growth necessary to make the business more than a moment in people’s lives. So, let me share with you who I think you should recruit.
You may not agree with what I am proposing, and if you don’t, email me and I will share with you my thoughts. Richard@RichardFlint.com
Strategies for Successful Selling When I am in Newport News, my favorite breakfast stop is the local IHOP. It is a fun place to eat and watch people. Normally it is fun filled environment, BUT the last couple of times I have been there something was missing – smiles on the faces of those who work there. Generally, the spirit of the people is upbeat, but that seemed to be gone. In talking to a couple of the people who work there, I made the comment, “What has happened here?” “What do you mean?” “The energy here has definitely changed. It is like someone walked in with an eraser and wiped the smile off the faces of the people.” The look on his face said everything. How important is a smile? How important is the emotional connection a smile makes? Smiles create a sense of we’re glad you are here. That is an important message because it let’s people know they are being noticed. The lack of smiles creates a very strong disconnect and makes people uncomfortable with their experience. So, here is my question: What’s In A Smile?
(I would love to hear your thoughts about this information. Email me at Richard@RichardFlint.com) “Dear Richard, I read and enjoy your quotes daily. I wanted to say thank you for including me in your email lists. I know it is a list from the last conference I attended and I am glad I sat in on your class!!!! As you have pointed out, often in our day to day we don’t take the time to appreciate the simple pleasures. I wanted you to know you help me to do that with each inspirational thought you send! I am a licensed agent that manages the team of the top agent of Long Island and Queens. We are currently carrying almost 60 listings at this time. Work is very busy, I love it, but it’s hectic! Besides working for a workaholic and being one myself, I am a wife and mother of 4 children, an 11-year old boy and triplets almost 3-year old girls. Needless to say, I need to juggle my time and energy everyday! I am a Boy Scout den leader, class mother, am involved in my PTA and many community organizations through business. It’s not the time I have difficulty managing, it’s the emotions involved with the time spent doing everything at once. I often sit down at the end of the day and wonder where it went. This may be a rambling email with no specific purpose other to say THANK YOU for all you do for those whose lives you have touched!” — Dawn IT’S BACK! 2007 Daily MindJogger Calendar “If life is going to start tomorrow, what are you doing with today?” Each day is a gift from God and it’s up to you to determine how you will use it. Will you abuse it? Waste it? Spend it? Or invest it? To help you make the process of investing your time easier, Richard created the Daily MindJogger Calendar. It’s a collection of some of his most powerful thoughts. This daily calendar is designed to guide each day of your life as you progress along your journey. It will give you the guidance, motivation, and inspiration you need to clearly define and achieve your dreams. Imagine having the clarity and insight you need to overcome difficult obstacles in your path! For more information and to order now, click here! Quantities are limited. Don't procrastinate! Richard's StarMaker 2007 Conference How important is Motivation? Is motivation a moment of energy or the enthusiasm that goes with living a life with direction and purpose? What happens to a life that lacks motivation? These are just a few of the questions that will be addressed at StarMaker 2007. The theme Richard has chosen is Feeding The Hunger of Motivation. In Richard's words, “One of the most confusing teachings that has come down through the ages are the words used to explain the concept of motivation. It is concept because it lacks the consistent persistency necessary to maintain the momentum of energy. When motivation is a moment of energy, it is not motivation; it is being psyched. That one thought makes motivation impossible to maintain.” This is going to be one powerful StarMaker. Mark the dates on your calendar – July 20-22 at Marriott’s Doral Spa and Golf Resort in Miami, Florida. Keep watching for more information of making this one of your 2007 Growth Experiences. Richard's Suggested Reading For The Month Find out how to help other people have a better quality of life and make some extra cash at the same time. Richard’s Affiliate Program is an opportunity to build a partnership with Richard and help him reach those who need his information and insights. You know the power of his message and now you can help others know it too.
Richard Flint Seminars 11835 Canon Blvd., Suite C-105 Newport News, VA 23606 1-800-368-8255 or (757) 873-7722 Fax 1-800-232-8255 o (757) 873-7772 Questions? Call Denise at 1-800-368-8255 or email: MindJogger@richardflint.com Newsletter Date: August 16, 2006 |
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